Jean-Paul Sartre, a French existentialist philosopher (1905-1980) once famously said that "hell is other people" (l'enfer, c'est les autres). I think this is true when we judge from, and react from, the Ego mind.
The Self understands the bigger picture, and is safe in the knowledge that it is always loved. Many people are not aware of this dimension within themselves, and habitually criticize and judge others. This is of course the other side of the coin in caring about how other people see them, and letting other people's opinions, beliefs and criteria define their identity.
In this way, we can be hell for other people, when we project unkind, unloving, judgemental thoughts and words at them.
This does not mean we cannot evaluate, and discern what is right and wrong for us when confronted with others' behaviour. Of course, we can say "using kind words is right for me" and act that way. We will soon attract others who have the same preferances.
The world is a well-stocked kitchen. You can find anything to eat here, from simple sandwiches, to burgers, quiche, french fries, spaghetti, sushi, to duck a l'orange and coq au vin. Everybody can choose what they like. It's really only important what you like. If you like french fries, and somebody else likes coq au vin, it doesn't make sense to begrudge them their meal or even attempt to ban it, because you happen not to enjoy it.
You are a divine expression, and so is your brother or sister. It is your job to take care of your own joy, nobody else's. You will find that a huge burden falls away when you stop attempting to police the world. You don't want to be told what to do, so act in the way you want to be treated.
In as much as we can be hell for other people, we can be their heaven.
See the divine in everyone. Errare humanum est, it is human to make errors/mistakes. Errors are just a temporary clouding or a deviation from the eternal inner light within every person. To see somebody as less than this does not feel good. Our higher self knows that in this moment we are not seeing clearly, we are not seeing the truth of the other person.
The same occurs when we do not feel seen, or when we are judgemental, critical or harsh towards ourselves.
You can only love somebody into alignment with joy, with their authentic self.
Everything you do is for the purpose of the joy that it is giving you. And so, when you don't see something through, it means that it stopped producing the joy that you were hoping to receive. Of course, it is always better if you have anticipated something and you've stayed lined up with it. If you're lined up with it, then it's joy when you're thinking about it even before you start, and it's joyful as you start, and it's intoxicating as you're going, and it's fulfilling as you do it, and it's satisfying as you finish it and you're in alignment the whole way on that. ~Abraham-Hicks